Saturday, December 12, 2009
Monday, November 2, 2009
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
My show's opening reception is July 18 (there's a typo in the date on the postcard which should say "July" and not "June".) 20 of my ethnic folk art acrylic on stretched canvas paintings will be shown along with established outsider artist Harriet Wiseman (one of her paintings is on the postcard too.)
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Happy Mother's Day, Libby! I love you!
What I failed to mention is a very long story about my separation from my mom and two of my three brothers for most of my childhood. The short version is I have 7 siblings--3 full brothers, a half sister, and 3 step sisters, with two dads and two moms.
When I was 6, my dad took us away from my mom in San Francisco, to live with his brother's family in Wisconsin. After a year, 2 of my brothers went to live with my mom and step dad.
After a year my dad came and got my eldest brother and me, and we moved to Philadelphia. He remarried. Since then, all contact was cut off with my mom and two brothers, so my brother and I went through a very sad and confusing number of years without seeing or talking with that part of my family, roughly 13 years.
After my first year of college in PA, when I was 19, I was finally able to spend the summer in CA for the first time with my mom, brothers, step dad, little sister and 3 step sisters. It was the greatest time of my life.
I spent many many years without my mom and brothers and dreamed about them constantly. There was really no adult to turn too.
Directly after graduation from Penn State, I moved to Northern Ca to be with my long lost family.
So when my step dad very recently dug out these old pictures of my mom in her 30's (I was about 11 at the time) and scanned them, I was thrilled, since they are "missing pieces" of my life which I now find tangible in the way of a photograph.
Today is Mother's Day and though we often argue because we are so alike, I want my mom to know how much I love and cherish her, and treasure the fact that I can see her every day now, with no more wondering where she is and what she is doing.
Happy Mother's Day, Mama. I love you.
Monday, March 30, 2009
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
It's by this Hawaiian man named Israel Kamakawiwo'ole who was considered a national treasure in Hawaii. He had the most beautiful voice and played ukelele. He also weighed over 500 pounds and died recently in his 30's. Lovely lovely voice. You might recognize this song from commercials and movies.
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Thursday, February 26, 2009
The reason I am writing this is because last night, someone on the etsy forum posted a thread about panic attacks. This morning, I posted a thread on how to stop them dead in their tracks.
So I thought I would blog about how to stop a panic attack instantly, and also a bit about assertiveness VS. agression
Stopping Panic attacks dead in their tracks:
1. As soon as you feel panicky, hold your breath. It is impossible to feel panic when holding your breath.
The physiological reason for this is as soon as adrenaline starts coursing through your body, your breathing changes. It might be so slight that you don't even realize it. You will start to consume too much oxygen (hyperventilation), which will add even more adrenaline, because your body is fooled into thinking it needs to escape an animal that is chasing you. More oxygen, more adrenaline, so you can get away.
You can also breathe into your hands or a paper bag, breathing in co2 which will then regulate your breathing to normal.
3. Relax your entire body. Just sag. You cannot feel panic if your body is completely limp. It's physiologically impossible.
4. Invite the panic to come and get you. Say aloud "Panic, come and get me."
Don't worry, it won't slam you. Inviting it instead of fighting it takes all the power out of it.
5. Repeat. "Panic, come and get me."
* The worst thing you can do when you feel panicky, is to try to take your mind off of it, or stop it in any way. It will just prolong and increase the adrenaline in your body. It will just last and last. That's why it's so IMPORTANT to do the steps imediately after you feel a hint of panic.
* Panic attacks are often hereditary, such as in my case.
Having them does not make you strange or a weak person. There are thousands of people who suffer from them.
* triggers of panic attacks are often angry or hurt feelings which are left unspoken and stuffed down. So anger and telling someone how you feel about a situation, is your friend.
That's where "assertiveness" comes in. Many people can't say "no" or are intimidated easily by others. Or they become super aggressive, which is self defeating.
There is a wonderful and funny book which teaches you techniques on how to be assertive (and not aggressive or passive-aggressive) called "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty" but Dr. Manuel Smith.
Repeating everything this person says will eventually get him/ her to stop.
(you) "my dress is ugly?"
"It makes you look fat."
"I wouldn't put a cow in that dress."
(you) "You wouldn't put a cow in this dress?"
Another technique is to agree with that person:
"You're a selfish bitch."
(you) "You're right. I can be a selfish bitch."
(you) "You're right. I may be stupid."
medications can also be very helpful. Klonopin has saved me many times!
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Well, the day started innocently enough. Who knew what would occur just a few hours later!
It's that time of year again, my mom's birthday--72nd to be exact and she always likes to go to a great sushi restaurant where we are friends with the sushi chef Sama-san.
So we got gussied up, me looking like cat woman, dressed entirely in black with 3 inch suede knee boots. Sam the dog looked pitiful to be left, so he came along to the party.
We were met by a couple, some family friends.
The food was spectacular, the fish super fresh, the sake awesome. Normally, when you drink sake you share it, with the little cups and a decanter. But our guests had beer, my mom doesn't drink and my dad prefers his sake cold, whereas I like mine hot. So...I had that decanter all for myself. Then I had another, and another. A drunk person never knows how drunk he/ she is.
We went out to the parking lot where Sama-san fetched his own dog, an akita/ lab mix, and the two dogs played together with leases on. It was then time to go home, so Sama-san put my Sam in the car but forgot to take off his leash.
We got home, I let Sam out of the car, and went on my merry way, falling twice because of my 3 inch boots (not the thing to wear after consuming mass quantities of sake.)
I got on the phone, called my exboyfriend, told him I loved him and wanted to come home. Then I went on the etsy forums as some sort of ninja samurai Dear Abby.
Here are the forum postings, misspellings and all!
Later, my dad went looking for Sam, because he noticed him missing and he didn't respond to a whistle. Our cars are parked far away from the house because my parents live on a quarter of an acre. He saw Sam standing by the car. He called again, but Sam just stood there looking confused. Finally my dad went up to him and began to pet him, when he realized the dog leash was closed in the door!
Mama mia! Sam hates when I drink sake too.
Sellers from many venues, such as etsy, artfire, dwanda, 1000 markets, etc. are free to use this site to highlight their items in "Spotlights" which look like treasuries, do social networking, have your own page to upload photos, etc. Everyone is talking about this great new site.
Anyway, you can find my interview o the first page, just scroll down a bit: http://byhand.me
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Thursday, February 19, 2009
I'm not leaving etsy, but am changing up what kind of store I want. I want something fun, that's fun to make and inexpensive to buy, like my articulated paper puppets or even papier mache figures. I'll also continue to knit scarves and make my tiny Japanese bags. Just no more jewelry for me!
Have fun with this sale!
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
there are some things you might want to consider before handing over your item ( this is NOT about blog give-aways, but a blogger asking you to specifically give him/her a free item with a review on his/her blog in return):
1. Almost all very popular, high traffic blogs and websites do not contact sellers. It's the other way around--they get contacted by hundreds of sellers asking for a product review.
2. Their blogs are most likely low traffic ones.
3. They want freebies.
4. They could just as easily PAY for your item and then review it.
5. They could just blog about your item or shop for free by using your pictures.
6. There are some people out there who will take advantage of you.
This tool might be helpful when deciding whether or not to send a product for review:
free blog ranker:
(blogs with a page rank of 4 and above get good traffic and have a good ranking)
So please be sure to check out stats and stuff, before sending free stuff.
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Yesterday on the etsy forums, I posted a thread about how I seem to spend my life promoting my shop, never-ending hours upon hours, and never seem to have time now to make new pieces, photograph them (which is also extremely time consuming) and list items. So I suggested that there is an untapped niche on etsy---shop promoters or PR people.
How great because a bunch of people came forward, and I have actually hired one person, to try out for a week, to promote my shop. She is making me an ad, then will post it in several network sites, along with some classified ads.
To help anyone needing this kind of service, I have compiled a list here of PR people, bloggers who will feature you and your shop for free, and some free sites to place ads. Also, a really cool site that has a website/ blog rater (it goes by how much traffic your blog receives, so you can check before you commit to placing an ad on someone's blog or site).
Here we go (with my disclaimer that I can, in no way, vouch for any of these people. Convo them and ask about their history with business marketing, etc.--do the research before choosing one):
says: I would love to help anyone with promotions---I love PR/Marketing etc. I would love to write a press release for you, a feature story etc. Perhaps brain storm about some ways to get creative with your marketing for the next few months---If you are interested---please convo me. I have honestly been thinking about starting a blog just for marketing for crafters---it would feature daily and weekly goals, and fun projects for all--to make promotion fun!!Looking forward to hearing from you!
I didn't share much about my background--Public Relations and Journalism--I have been a freelance writer, and also operated my own art studio for 8 years. I recently decided to jump back into the corporate world after a recent divorce--however, not sure that was the right move. I am now the marketing director under a major national company. However, I don't think working for "the man" is what I should be doing. So my goal is to promote my art work on etsy and other online/offline venues, operate as a freelance writer, and start a marketing blog/business to help with...promotions! I miss owning my own business, and creating daily--writing, painting or getting creative with a marketing plan--I am a bit different of an artist. I consider myself more the creative type. If you are interested in helping me get my business off the ground, I would be interested in helping you. Perhaps we can work together---talk to you soon!
I can create an etsy facebook page or personal/ business blog, myspace, twitter, etc. If you are looking for a website presence I can create that. I am willing to work with anyone who needs help with marketing, be it print or internet.
I work for iContact for email marketing. Email me if you are interested.
My business is small & I just do a few admin jobs for other small businesses.
But, as I read this thread I'm thinking that maybe I can put a package together for Handmade i.e. Etsy shops
to promote, or have a menu of things I can do. I know people won't have a lot to spend to start, so that's why I want to tailor this and think about the best approach. I don't know how long this thread will last since someone said this is something Etsy would not allow. If anyone is interested, please convo me then I can
give you my email address and we can really talk. Thank you, Marlene
I create Avatars, Banners, Logos, I have have created my own address lables to match my logo, Avatar and Banner. I have a website http://myhelpinghand.ning.com/ . I love setting it up and change peridodically to keep things fresh!I can create and place ads.. there are a lot of free advertising sites out there. I also have numerous networks I belong to and carry my theme throught. If any would be interested in a personal consult just email me through my webpage. I have added a page there called helping hand or you can convo me here
I use facebook,myspace,twitter,2 blogs,local press realeases,and paid ads on orangesoda and yellow book not to mention any free classifieds I can get to bring people to my site and everyone links that I have posted.Unfortunaltely (sp) it taked a goo 30 days to get in all the search engines etc. but i have had about 1300 page view so far and still tweaking the site to make it more shopper friendly.
Hi...been reading your post. Could you tell me a little more about what you are looking for in having someone else promote your business? I might be interested in helping you out, but I want to see what exactly you have in mind first!! :-)Feel free to read my blog to learn more about me! I'll be out some this evening but will respond as soon as I return! Blessings, Dawn ( Dawn will do a complete review of your shop for $30)http://shadesjewelry.blogspot.com/
Bloggers who will feature you:
*FREE http://myfunnybunny.etsy.com/ ( does giveawayson her blog )
I do give aways and when the item is sent to me for the give away I do a seperate review!Started this month, all etsy sellers. This month's FREEBIE - AVATAR & BANNER!http://www.myfunnybunnyhandmade.blogspot.com/
*FREE http://facialcareboutique.etsy.com/ (will blog about your shop)
*FREE http://busterandboo.etsy.com/ ( will feature you on her blog and has blog giveaways)
*FREE http://robynsart.etsy.com/ (will feature you on her blog--she does an interview every Weds.)
*FREE http://alionakjewelry.etsy.com/ (will feature you on a blog)
"I'm planning to start my own blog with a goal to promote handmade. Funny enough, I was planning to do it for free! The only trick is to get myself organized and set aside time to actually do it."
*FREE http://digitalexpressions.etsy.com/ (will feature you on her blog)
Okay I'm gonna jump in and hope this work. I love blogging and special about artistic/creative people. I would like to offer featuring any of you in this thread on my blog http://www.glentwistle.blogspot.com/. All you have to do is convo me with permission to copy your photos and infor from you profile for use on my blog.I may even later ask you to do an interview as I have time. I still create, blog, do a little promoting and love it all.Go look at the blog and you will see what I do. I was told by on of the artists I featured in my watercolor blog that she sold both items I featured. It can't hurt and costs you nothing.
http://jimjuris.etsy.com/ will answer questions. He also is willing to reveiw your shop for a samll fee.
http://gilbea.etsy.com/ (is a web designer)
FREE ad sites:
http://thmpsd.dmpmc.net/ (go to upper right where it says to "submit store"
free website grader: http://website.grader.com/ (so you can check out scores for websites to see if they are worth advertising on and get plenty of traffic. )
free blog ranker: http://www.prchecker.info/check_page_rank.php (blogs with a page rank of 4 and above get good traffic and have a good ranking)
http://feralglass.etsy.com/ recommends a book called "A Complete Guide to Google Advertising" by Bruce Brown
Well, I've been gone for quite a while, nursing a broken heart from my breakup with that Bill guy, my ex-boyfriend of almost 9 years.